Monster-In-Law

So Thanksgiving was not as hoped, but exactly as I expected. My parents hosted this year and kept it small, just us and the in-laws. I was literally dreading going over there the day of Thanksgiving, just cringing at what comments my MIL would say to me throughout the day. I mentioned it briefly to DH, but as always he said it would be fine. Nope.

They arrived and my MIL brought some wonderful desserts with her as always. Thank god she taught DH how to bake (and cook), it has paid off! So my mother commented on one of the plates the desserts were on, remarking how pretty is was. Instead of simple 'Thank You' so said it was gift from DH's ex-girlfriend. Grrrrr she brings her up in conversation whenever possible. I just want to scream "THEY DATED 15 YEARS AGO." I don't get it, neither does DH and it is starting to annoy him now too.

Then we got on the subject of Movember since DH is participating again this year (t minus 3 days till he is sans stache again). My BIL mentioned how DH looked like their grandfather with a stache, but said their grandfather always looked old to him. Now, I can't remember exactly what happened to the conversation at this point, but I do remember my MIL saying that when they finally have grandkids they will look old too. Really?!? I kind of figured the grandkids/grandparents topic was pretty much off the table right now? And yes, she knows that I had a m/c last month because I had DH tell her to avoid any grandchildren discussion. Was it that bad? No, I guess not but all of my emotions are still pretty raw about everything right now and I just didn't need it...not on this day...not on the day we were supposed to be telling them I was pregnant.

So the rest of the day was pretty uneventful. Of course my MIL made pretty consistent digs at me throughout the day about not cleaning and/or cooking. Neither of these things are true, and they haven't been to our place in over a year. I literally don't even know where this comes from, she just likes to say hurtful things to me. I don't remember getting a hug goodbye and when my parents mentioned Christmas Eve at their house (my parents always host Christmas Eve and we got to DH's parents for Christmas Day), my MIL said they would come over if they didn't have a better offer. Okay, now my parents are being insulted? Nopity nope.

Mini-meltdown ensued after they left. To be fair, I was on the edge of crying all week anyway and her comments were literally just the icing on this mofo cake of a holiday.

Everyone said things would get better between us after we got engaged, then after we got married. None of this has happened. In all honesty, I haven't done anything to make her dislike me except for the fact that I married her son. At this point I don't ever expect her to like me, just to respect me because I am not sure how much longer I am going to be able to bite my tongue. DH promised to have a conversation with her about this, and he realizes how hurtful she has been to me. I'm hoping this happens sooner rather than later.

On a positive note...